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You Fucked Up, You’re Human, but It’s Time to Own Your Shit.

If you’ve ever struggled with taking accountability and don’t know where to start, admitting you’re wrong is a bigger step than you think.


Boyfriends, girlfriends, significant others, BFFs—literally any relationship dynamic you can think of—is destined to have its fights, and if you’re particularly close, there’s nothing you can do to stop it from happening. It’s inevitable, but in a super healthy way. It sounds weird, but let me be clear, arguing with people you care about on a regular basis isn’t normal, it’s toxic.

What is normal is having strong disagreements because you won’t agree on everything, lashing out because you don’t understand something the other person is feeling even if you don’t mean to, or feeling a type of way when someone calls you out on your bullshit (more on this one later).

I don’t say these things are normal as a synonym for healthy, especially since they can become toxic traits and red flags hella quick, I mean they’re normal in the sense that they’re human reactions.

For better or for worse, we’ve all been in these situations and that’s okay. What’s not okay is how many of us choose to respond. Sure, there are people who’ve learned to be mature and talk through their issues, but a lot of us don’t do that (as much as we pretend we do). The truth is we’d rather ghost someone and ignore the confrontation needed to fix things or internalize our mistakes instead of taking accountability for the part we played, both of which are toxic as fuck!

Owning up to your shit isn’t easy and it’s one of the hardest and most uncomfortable things to do, but if we’re being honest? It’s the most important thing you need to master if you ever want a solid relationship.

Whether you want to change your habits or want to fix something you broke, here’s some shit to remember that I know will help (brace yourself for some tough love baby):

1. There’s a BIG fucking difference between defensive actions and deliberate ones.