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Things Self-Conscious People Struggle With and How to Overcome It

Ideas and tactics I’ve learned

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There is nothing more challenging than being self-conscious. As an introvert, I know that dealing with self-consciousness is difficult and you may have this overwhelming feeling that no matter what you say or do, you’re afraid of being judged. If you are experiencing these feelings, don’t be discouraged, there is nothing wrong with that. But, if you feel that these emotions are holding you back from great opportunities then here are some tips on how you can overcome self-consciousness.

Boost your self-confidence

To begin the process of overcoming your self-consciousness, you need to find ways to boost your self-confidence. Try waking up each morning and reciting a mantra, something that makes you feel good about yourself. Or wear things that make you feel sexy. There is nothing better than looking in a mirror and saying “Damn, you look good!” It’s all about owning your awesomeness, and not allowing others thoughts and feelings to get inside your head. I know, this sounds corny but who better to remind yourself that you are awesome but you?

Put yourself out there

Most of the time, self-conscious people are comfortable with doing activities that don’t require them to be the center of attention. Generally, people who are self-conscious are nervous to try new things based on the fact that they don’t want to do them alone. I know from experience that it’s hard to go to an event when you’re alone, even if it’s for something that you love to do. Don’t let your self-consciousness keep you away from joining the fun and experiencing new things. The first step towards letting go is taking the leap and putting yourself out there. You’ll never know the outcome until you try it.

Write down your feelings

Writing your feelings down is a great way to overcome your self-consciousness, you don’t have to feel judged or embarrassed in your own mind. If you ever feel overwhelmed by anything that’s going on whether it’s school, a job interview, or a date just take a deep breath and jot down your feelings in the moment. The great thing about writing is that you can express your feelings in any form; it doesn't have to be a journal entry. I always found that writing my feelings down in the form of a poem helped me when I felt overwhelmed.

It might take them a while for you to be completely comfortable opening yourself up, and that is perfectly fine — just allow yourself the room to grow at your own pace. Sometimes our harshest critic can be ourselves. So don’t let your self-consciousness take away all of the things that make you who you are because that person is really great! Some of the best people are self-conscious on the surface but once they open up to people they turn out to be the funniest, kindest, intelligent people you’ll meet.


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