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The Reality of the First Time

Feat. The inner monologues of survivors.

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I’m so into him.

Why are my hands shaking?

I shouldn’t have eaten so much today.

Omg did I remember to shave?

I hope he doesn’t ghost me after this...


She’s stunning.

Okay, get yourself together.

Did I bring a condom?

Shit is this really about to happen right now?

I hope I can last...



Mentally pregaming before having sex with someone for the first time involves a lot of dwelling. It's frantically remembering why you love wearing baggy sweatshirts, pinpointing every insecurity, and reminding yourself that you don't need to go through with this if you're not ready. It's the question running through your head, does wearing baggy clothes mark me as being self-conscious?

The nerves are real and completely valid.

When you’re sharing a moment as intimate as sex with someone new, it’s okay to be anxious. It takes time to trust someone enough to feel entirely comfortable around them, especially when it comes down to your body.