Within the dialogue of sexism and feminism, have you ever heard your male counterpart combat your argument with a variation of the following statement?
“Women aren’t entirely oppressed, they're privileged in some ways. For example, women can get into parties and bars for free! Drinks for free! Or they can rely on their looks to get out of a speeding ticket!” Even just the idea of “women who are beautiful don’t have to work for anything in life because they can rely solely on their looks.” Etc, etc.
All I have to say to that is: who’s fault is that?
Sir, you do realize that’s because men quite literally view women’s bodies as something to be traded for goods and services, right? That guy at the bar is not buying me a drink because he thinks I look parched. You’ve commodified our bodies into something that you THINK you can consume if you give us “special treatment”, and that is by your own hand.
Those are the patriarchal traditions that you are now upholding and subscribing to.
Women’s bodies and the vague idea, or even slight possibility that you might get to have sex with one of them is quite literally the money making commodity for bars. Women are the product.
We see it all the time, it’s the guy who gets pissed when a woman won’t sleep with him after he just paid for a date, or whatever. Like okaaaayyy????? My body isn’t synonymous with a 2 for 1 deal at Chili’s, my guy. It takes more than that. Or maybe it doesn’t! It depends on the person you’re with, but regardless, women don’t owe you shit just because you bought them something or did something “nice” for them.
Also, I hate to burst your bubble but doing something for someone with the expectation of receiving something in return is in fact NOT kindness or selflessness, nor deserving of sex. Sorry </3