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Your Partner Has An Anxiety Disorder. Here’s How You Can Help.

Anxiety shouldn’t be a part of a relationship, but it is. Stop whining about it, and learn to be a better ally.

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When it comes to relationships, supporting each other is key, but oftentimes anxiety can complicate things. Maybe their anxiety's new, or perhaps you're growing close enough that you're finally seeing that part of their life. Whatever the case, you might be wondering how you can help.

While it isn’t always easy to be in a relationship with someone with an anxiety disorder, there are things you can do to alleviate the pressure in your partner’s life. As someone who battles anxiety, I’ve been asked many questions on how to support your significant other. I compiled a list of the most common ones, hope this helps!

Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist, this is simply my own advice and shouldn’t be used in place of a professional.

Q: They’re fine one minute and the next, they’re spiraling. Is this normal?

Believe it or not, this is COMPLETELY normal. Before you get on my case, I am not saying that having an anxiety disorder is normal. I mean “normal” in regards to the difficult truth of battling anxiety; these spirals are unnaturally “natural”.

I am no stranger to this, sometimes I am totally calm and the next moment my anxiety takes over.

The best thing to do in this situation is to have patience. Your significant other might not know exactly what is triggering them enough to explain it.

Please do not call your partner dramatic! I promise you they aren’t doing this to get your attention.

Patience is a virtue, and let me tell you, in those moments, it will mean the world to your partner. Be patient. All you need to do is be there for them.

Q: How can I assure them they’re in a safe space?

One of the key needs for someone who battles an