Closure is a complex, sucky, but yet necessary concept. Although you never know when it's going to strike, sometimes it appears in the strangest of places.
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People get rejected all the time. The worst part is you never know when or where it can strike. It can happen when you're head over heels for your significant other of seven years, when you're involved in a three-week situationship, or even a thirty-second flirting session. Literally, you never freaking know.
Regardless of the attachment level, rejection fucking sucks.
As much as the rejection fucking sucks, it's what happens after the rejection that sometimes hits the hardest.
The cliche of closure.
We humans, for some stupid reason, desire a need to know where things went wrong.
Was it the way I put the dishes away?
Did I smell like beef and cheese the last time we hooked up?
Did I not say "I love you" enough?
Seeking closure is essentially a hunt for answers. We want to know where, when, and why things went wrong in order to resolve the painful feelings created by rejection and loss (even if you talked to the person for 10 seconds).
Until we solve this mysterious ambiguity, our mortal minds have trouble moving on. This is why we crave closure.
Sometimes closure can be hard to happen on it's own, so you have to make it yourself.
Although it can be hard to move on from an ex, sometimes it's the little things in life that reassure you you're not missing out on much. If you can't find closure, you might have to make it. <