If your anxiety tends to go up as you're preparing to go out for a date, then here are some steps you can take to ease the tension.
Going on a date can be nerve-wracking, especially if you're someone who struggles with anxiety. You might be tired about people telling you to just "relax" because to be honest, that always makes me feel even more anxious. But with a few simple tips, you can manage your anxiety and make the most of your date.
Practice Deep Breathing
We know you're rolling your eyes at this first step, but deep breathing is a simple and effective way to calm your nerves before a date. Find a quiet place, sit down, and take a few deep breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth. Focus on your breath and try to slow it down. This will help you relax and ease any tension you're feeling. We suggest doing this before you start getting ready and before it's time to leave your place to go on the date.
Give Positive Self- Talk a Chance
Your thoughts have a big impact on your emotions. If you're thinking negative thoughts before a date, it can increase your anxiety. Instead, step in front of the mirror or sit on your bed and close your eyes and take a chance at positive self-talk. Tell yourself that you're a great person and that you deserve to have a good time on your date. That all you can control is having a good attitude. That it is already a victory to be putting yourself out there. Remind yourself of your positive qualities.
Your Outfit Needs to Be Pre-Planned In Advance
Choosing what to wear can be stressful, especially if you're worried about making a good impression. That's why planning your outfit in advance can ease the nerves. If you plan it a few days earlier, you can even treat yourself to a new top or jeans if you choose to. You want to wear something that makes you feel confident and comfortable. If you feel good about how you look, you're gonna feel relaxed and more confident.
Avoid Caffeine and Sugar
We're sorry, but your Starbucks iced coffee has no place in your pre-date ritual. Caffeine and sugar can increase feelings of anxiety. Before your date, try to avoid caffeine and sugary foods. Instead, opt for water or herbal tea to stay hydrated and at ease.
Break a Sweat
Go for a walk, a jog, or hit the gym. Exercising is a great way to reduce anxiety and improve your mood. Go for a walk or a jog before your date to help calm your nerves. Exercise releases endorphins, which can boost your mood naturally.
Text the Group Chat
Or better yet, keep them on facetime or IRL while you're getting ready. Having a support system can help you manage your anxiety. Before your date, reach out to a friend to let them know that you're feeling nervous. It makes it easier to have someone to voice out your thoughts to, especially someone you like and who knows you well.
Set Realistic Expectations
Going on a date can be exciting, but it's important to set realistic expectations. Don't put too much pressure on yourself or your date. Stop romanticizing the whole thing before it even happens, and the last thing you want to do is put this person on a pedestal. In most cases, you're about to meet them. You have to let them tell and show you who they are before you decide in your mind. Remember that it's okay if the date doesn't go perfectly. The goal is to have a good time and get to know each other better.
In conclusion, managing anxiety before a date can seem like a daunting task, but it doesn't have to be. By practicing deep breathing, using positive self-talk, planning your outfit, avoiding caffeine and sugar, exercising, practicing mindfulness, having a support system, being honest, setting realistic expectations, and practicing self-care, you can reduce your anxiety and enjoy your date. Remember, the most important thing is to have fun and be yourself!
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