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Dropping the Handkerchief: Flirting Without Flirting

The best flirt makes you think it was their idea to buy you a drink.


Flirting is an art.


Some even use it as a game (guilty as charged). But flirting, and I mean quality flirting, takes practice. And no, asking your middle school crush to play spin the bottle does not count.


To effectively flirt, you have to understand the person mind. And when we’re young, most of us have two things in common: we love a chase and we love attention. These two things culminate to make the perfect form of flirting, one so subtle it leaves the other QUESTIONING if you’re flirting or not. All you have to do is give a signal of interest, and then they’ll come up to you.


Now I must admit, most of these I have learned because they have either been done to me (and worked), or I played around with different techniques in my escapades of frat houses and I’m telling you now which ones worked seamlessly. It was an interesting experimentation, which included many failures. I had absolutely no humility my freshman year. (Don’t tell a frat boy you’re trying to make out with one brother from each house, that one doesn’t work).


Sooo here are some fool-proof techniques I learned while a joyful member of the streets.


1. Compliment and Run


This worked on me at the first frat I ever went to…


If you see someone at a party or a bar who you think is cute, don’t go up to them and try to strike a conversation. Most of the time, they will know you’re trying to flirt and the entire concept of the ‘chase’ is gone. If you’re cute enough, they’ll take the attention, but you probably won’t get anything in return.



But again, that’s dependent on how hot you are.


What you do is find something you like about their appearance, walk up to them, compliment them on that feature, perhaps a lil touch on the shoulder… then leave.


A boy walked up to me at a party once, told me I had some of the prettiest eyes he’d ever seen, then walked away. I was shocked. He didn’t even try to talk to me. I was SO confused. But there are those two factors working… I got attention, and he started a chase. Fast forward half an hour and we were making out against the pool table. It wasn’t until months later I realized he TOTALLY planned that whole thing.


Shit works.