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Therapy Is A Privilege, Not A Right.

Therapy doesn’t always work, and that’s okay! It’s time we start accepting it isn’t the "holy grail" of solutions we make it out to be.

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Disclaimer: The actions I took regarding therapy are mine alone, and are being shared for informative purposes only. This is not meant to convince anyone of a certain opinion, it is meant to help further our understanding of therapy as a method of healing.

It’s damn near impossible to have a conversation about mental health without throwing the topic of therapy into the mix. And if we’re being honest, that’s completely valid and necessary. But sometimes, not all the time.

Though therapy can be such a crucial turning point in one’s mental health journey, it isn’t the end-all-be-all solution we portray it to be. Just as coping mechanisms, triggers, and mental states differ, as does the path we choose towards healing.

The idea isn’t, “Therapy’s bad. You’re a dick for suggesting it,” (because we’ve all suggested it at one point or another) it’s understanding the topic of therapy is complicated and has so many layers none of us seem to think about.

For example: Therapy isn’t an option for some of us.

Therapy is a privilege, not a right. That much was clear.

As both an asian and black child, this was my daily reality.

Why, you ask?

Because in most ethnic households, mental health isn’t a conversation.

It’s a topic you push down and ignore because, “Someone has it worse.” Conversations begin and end with: “What do you have to be depressed about? You’re just ungrateful,” or “Therapy is for white people, you’re fine,” and my personal favorite, “Stop being dramatic. Depression doesn’t exist.”

Hearing this as a child absolutely fucked with my mindscape in ways I’m still dealing with now.

As much as I could’ve benefitted from therapy, it wasn’t something I had the option of choosing.