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The Unfortunate Adaptations As A Woman In A Society Perpetuated By Rape Culture

In writing this piece, I think it’s important to acknowledge that I was advised by many people to be careful with what I write with a topic like this. Of course, they had good intentions and their opinions were valid. On the other hand, this was honestly my first indicator that even though women have to deal with inhumane treatment in society today, we are still reminded to watch and monitor how we talk about it. Not only is that tragic, but it’s pretty backhanded.

In Think Like a Feminist, Carol Hay makes a distinct difference between men and women: “Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.” Not only that, but rape culture is exceedingly normalized. People may believe that this is dramatic, but it becomes evident through what women have to do everyday to avoid being raped or harassed.

Travel in groups. Have a defense mechanism on your keychain. Avoid eye contact with strangers in public. Don’t walk alone at night. Don’t walk alone period. Hold your keys in between your knuckles.. just in case. Look under your car before getting in. Keep your head on a swivel at all times. Cross the street to avoid unwanted conversation.

(learning different ways to hold keys is a normality)

The tragic part is that I can list 100 more things that become part of a woman’s every day routine in this unfortunate world. They all involve changing some normal aspect of life in order to be safe.

In my personal experience, when I go out in public alone, these thoughts never leave my brain.

Is he following me?

Should I be worried?

He’s whistling at me, walk faster.

I should probably cross the street