Finding the positives in the negatives and embracing them.
People are the same wherever you go. Narcissists, homewreckers, critics, and heartbreakers; they litter our earth and hold enough toxicity to destroy themselves, along with everyone and anyone in their path.
The negativity they project is life altering, excruciatingly painful to deal with, and undeniably creates the most strenuous roadblocks to get past.
Sometimes it’s hard to find the redeeming qualities in people that cause so much chaos. It’s difficult to feel okay with the fact that you’ve wasted time trying to fix them or trying to help them see the beauty that exists in this world when they’re only capable of seeing the ugly.
There’s a point where you have to stop trying to change people and take a close look at the impact they’ve had on you. Comb through the trauma and the damage they’ve inflicted to see what reasonably positive message you can take from them.
This is the only way I’ve been able to move on from the people who have hurt me.
High School "Friend":
You nicknamed me “fatty” because you thought it was funny, always following the insult up with “I’m kidding” or an obnoxious laugh. I told you I didn’t like it because it wasn’t true. You didn’t stop because it made you feel more confident in yourself.
That word played over and over in my head for a while when I looked at myself in the mirror before I realized that a “friend” would never induce verbal pain in order to feed their own ego. Now, all I see when I look in the mirror is beauty.
When I slept over your house, you spent hours talking to random guys online and thrived off of bragging about each new guy of the week.
I felt left out when I wasn’t talking to any guys, but now I would rather do anything else.
For a while, I cared a lot about what people thought of me. I couldn’t give less of a shit now.