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Man Up: What It Means To Be A Real Man?

Is this masculine robot of a man the standard we want to maintain?


What does it mean to be a man? From an early age, guys have heard an array of comments to install and reestablish their masculinity. These phrases, common in society, serve as a reality check for a man to do what is expected of him.


It would seem these toxic culture surrounding these perceptions of what a man should be, forces young boys to question their manhood.


“Be a Man!”
“Don’t be soft.”
“Man up!”

And so on and so on.


Going to an all-boys high school, these words were just day-to-day banter. At the time, I didn't think it weighed on me much or anyone else. You know how it goes: "boys being boys." However looking back, these phrases clearly plant a poisonous seed in the minds of young boys that being a man isn't an option.


It's a requirement.


And you see, the thing is, that questioning masculinity is never just that. It usually is equated to feminization.


If you aren’t acting like a guy, you must be acting like a chick.


“You throw a ball like a girl.”
“Stop being a little bitch.”