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Don't Call Me A "Bruh Girl"

The term "bruh girl" is running rampant all over social media, especially on Tik Tok. But when you hear those words, do you think it's a compliment? Why? Below is an explanation as to why being a "bruh girl" is actually an insult.

Graphic by Alyona Baranoff.

She's not like other girls, she's a "cool girl."


We’ve all heard it before. Whether it be in the movies or maybe your high school boyfriend said it about you thinking it was a compliment while trying to impress his friends.


Either way, what the fuck is a “cool girl” (nowadays we call it the "bruh girl") and why did we let men come up with the idea and define us as such? I refuse. I fucking hate the cool girl ideology.


(For the sake of this article, I will be using the terms cool girl and bruh girl interchangeably)


The first person to diagnose this trope in pop culture was Gillian Flynn, author of the best-selling book Gone Girl (2012). She provided us with an amazing monologue that encapsulates the cool girl to a T:


“Men always say that as the defining compliment, don’t they? She’s a cool girl. Being the cool girl means that I am a hot, brilliant, funny woman who adores football, poker, dirty jokes, and burping, who plays video games, drinks cheap beer, loves threesomes and anal sex, and jams hot dogs and hamburgers into her mouth like she's hosting the world’s biggest culinary gang bang while somehow maintaining a size 2, because cool girls are above all hot. Hot and understanding. Cool girls never get angry; they only smile in a chagrined, loving manner and let their men do whatever they want. Go ahead, shit on me, I don’t mind, I’m the cool girl.”

There’s a lot to unpack here.


The key to the cool girl is that she reflects the male’s interests. She is someone who is paradoxically living a “masculine” lifestyle but simultaneously exists as the height of femininity when it comes to her outward appearance.


As Flynn said, stuffing your face with food and beer while remaining a size 2. I don’t know about you, but if I ate the way my boyfriend did, I’d be 30 pounds heavier. Men do not deserve the speedy metabolism they are blessed with.


Symptoms of the bruh girl are as follows:


  • She’s described as “one of the guys”